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5 Questions Godly Men Should Ask Themselves Before Marriage

Importance: Being Married is a massive deal and a lifetime commitment. So, you must be sure that your partner is the one you want to be with you through thick and thin the rest of your life. Here are some questions as a man you should ask yourself about your partner before making a leap to spend the rest of your life with them.

  1. Is she a Christian too? Same or different denominations? If not does she support, you in your faith? While I would say most relationships would be simpler or smoother if you and your partner were the same faith and denomination, it is by no means a requirement. The biggest thing is support. Do you both support each other in your faith and whatever it may be? Do you think that both of you will continue to support each other that way your entire lives? Having differences of faith is never a deal breaker but it can make things much more difficult. So, think long and hard, and pray about what you feel is right before making any long-term decisions.
  2. Do both of you help each other grow in every way? This may feel like it is building off of the last point, but it is still important, nonetheless. Do you and your partner continuously push each other to be better. Not just spiritually with faith but in every way. One of the most important things in a relationship is continuous improvement. Life will constantly throw things at you, and it takes a strong relationship with each other to push to be better and push to solve problems together and keep moving forward. Will your partner push you for the rest of your life?
  3. Are you ready to be considered as one and die for her if needed? I know it sounds grim, but it is a question you need to be able to answer. Once married you are no longer two separate people, you are one together. In the bible (Ephesians) it talks about marriage uniting people into “one flesh”, it also discusses being willing to die for your partner the way Jesus did for the church. These are loaded questions that should not be easy to answer. Once again, take time and think and pray clearly. If the answer is not yes to both of these questions, do some real reflection and pray for clarity before making any decisions. “Husbands love your wives, the way Christ loved the church and gave himself for it.” (Ephesians 5:25). “So, ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh.” (Ephesians 5:28-29). “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, they shall become one in the flesh.” (Ephesians 5:31).
  4. Will you always show them respect and honor and protect them from all harm? This question also builds on the last of being considered one and being willing to die for your partner if needed. Do a lot of internal reflection and pray for clear mind and really think through your decision. For the rest of your life as mentioned you will be one with your partner, are you ready and willing to always honor them and show them respect. The bible calls for you as a man to respect them but also protect them against all harm and evil. Before you get married make sure you are ready to do anything for your partner if the need arises and always honor and protect them. “Husbands, always love your wives and never be harsh or bitter with them.” (Colossians 3:19).
  5. Are you ready and willing to be committed to that person for the rest of your life, till death do you part? It’s the simplest question, are you willing to spend the rest of your life with this one person? Like everything else do not take this lightly. The rest of your life is a long time, its forever, in this life and after you will be one in God’s eyes. Are you willing to spend the rest of this life with this one person and possibly your afterlife? If you even have reservations about this question, take time and pray for clarity. If you are not willing to be with one person the rest of your life, don’t get married. “Ye have heard that thou salt not commit adultery: But I say unto you that whosever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28). “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulters God will always judge.” (Hebrews 13:4).

Conclusion: Getting married is a huge decision and the most important and happiest day of your life. However, it is something you need to be absolutely sure on. The bible is very and states multiple times once married you are one. You have to be willing to accept this and make sure that the person you are marrying is the person you want next to you the rest of your life, through thick and thin until death and maybe after and the person you would want next to you in your worst days of battle. Both parties should do a lot of internal reflection before taking this huge step. Once married, continue to work and strive to make yourselves better and never give up on each other. Put your faith in God and let him help lead the way.

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